When the Secret came out, I was so excited. I was sure “I got it.” I did my dream board and waited. And waited. I closed my eyes and tried to tap into whatever it was that I was supposed to tap into. Guess what? Nothing happened.

Now I know! Of course it didn’t. Why? Because if you keep doing the same things, you are going to get the same results. And I did. And it seemed that my life sucked encore.

Well, let me tell you. If you want tap into a higher vibration, you need to surround yourself with like minded people who are either on that vibration already or are on their way.

Many people walk with a cloud of negativity around them. They float on it without realizing it. And it is like a bad smell. You can smell it and you screw your nose up or cover you nose to protect it. In essence, you modify your behavior.

Two things you can do.

1. Stay away, find new people to inspire you, rather than bring you down. Often, when you start to feel better then they feel worse so they try and drag you down so you don’t leave them behind. If you do start to escape, they can’t handle it and start to attack you in a last ditch effort to bring you back down.

2. Sometimes we can’t escape a person like this, at home or at work. You need to practice compassion and make them aware without hurting them. Build them up without tearing yourself down. You need to create boundaries and let them know the boundaries. This is great for them but even better for you. Setting boundaries is a self esteem building technique that allows you to identify what you want and need. This is half the battle.

We all run in so many different direction that we get nowhere. Choose one thing at a time and focus on how to get there. Be realistic. If your goal is to be financially independent, be open to the opportunities as they present themselves. If you are looking for a partner but have a checklist of who and what she/he should be then you will miss the person you have asked the universe for. Don’t shutout the universe as it offers you things. Don’t be so regimented that you miss it.