When Is It The Right Time To Sleep With A Guy For The First Time?

I think I will need some feedback on this question.

I was once told that the longer you wait the better. Unless….

Unless you are just looking for sex.

If you want more than sex, hold out, but flirt your arse off.

At the end of the day, men love the chase. They don’t really want to be chased and if you chase a guy he probably will sleep with you, but will generally not take you seriously. But don’t be discouraged. There are exceptions to the rule. Just don’t count on them.

There is a stage women go through where they believe in love at first sight and go for it. It is linked to being a Disney Princess, believing in the Easter Bunny, Father Christmas and the Tooth Fairy. This “love at first sight shag” may turn into a relationship but not a good one.

If you are serious about a guy, you will vet(sic) him first. And by that, I don’t mean take him to the vet and neuter him. You will want to get to know him and see how compatible you really are after the initial attraction wears off. Because that compatibility is what will grow all aspects of the relationship.

It is a red flag to a guy when you jump in too soon that you are looking for something and even if he sticks around for a bit, he will doubt your motives. And if he doesn’t, then there is something wrong with him.

So if you want to quickie, maybe once or twice or one or two months, then go for it.

If you want to build something strong, like the smartest of the the 3 piggies, then you will take the time and the thought it requires. Foundation is the key!

But remember that no answer is really right. Most of us have to go through these stages at some point in our lives. Even if they are painful, they are a learning curve. Just make sure you learn the lesson so you can move from Wankerville to rewarding.

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One thought on “When Is It The Right Time To Sleep With A Guy For The First Time?

  1. You are right, if you are just wanting sex then it doesn’t matter.

    If you want a real relationship with a man, then you need to wait until you are BOTH committed in a monogamous relationship to each other.

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