When life hands you lemons, how do you make lemonade? Forget the lemonade and make yourself a cosmo!

So this morning I saw a poster that said “be careful who you trust”. Let’s face it, the people you love and trust are the ones that can hurt you. Strangers can get to you, i.e “that mongrel who cut me off in traffic this morning” etc. But it is our closest relationships that cause us the most joy and the most pain. 

When you trust someone and they betray you (whether once or  over a period of time) it is very hard not to take it personally. Is the sense of betrayal worse than the sense of loss at losing the person you care about? Because lets face it, some things cannot be forgiven. Some bonds get broken and there is no going back. We all have to live with the choices we make.

Someone once told me that the Christian 10 Commandments were all created equal so if you break the commandment not to lie, it is as serious as if you broke the commandment ” thou shall not kill.”

As a recovering catholic, I cannot comment but it may be food for thought for someone out there. At the end of the day what it all comes down to is our sense of self worth and what we see our value is as friend, lover, business person, whatever the relationship. There are plenty of great people out there just waiting to be meet you.

Don’t live a fear based life because you will make bad decisions based on your fears and they will become your reality.

We cannot be responsible for anyone but ourselves and we will always have to live with our actions. We can kid ourselves and pretend that we were justified if we hurt someone, but it is always selfishness that makes us act that way. That nagging in the back of our head will always be there, robbing us of true happiness in the future. It is rare that anyone makes a mistake only once. And people generally keep acting int he same way over and over again. For example, if your spouse cheated on you and you leave him and he runs off with the girl he cheated on you with. He will cheat on her and the next one and the next one. Chances are, if he is cheating with one person, he has a whole harem. And do you want to be the new girl, living in fear that the same thing will happen to you. Because hell yeah it will!!!! It already has honey! 

if someone hurts you, Don’t get caught up in the cycle of revenge, trust that things will take care of themselves and you just need to move on to bigger and better things.

We all play a part in the soap opera that is our lives. We all participate. We have to decide what are our ground rules and let the people who deserve to be in our lives come. If we act like crap we will be surrounded by crap. If you find yourself surrounded by crapping people, look at yourself and find the part of you that is attracted to it and work on that part of you. Get rid of those people. Then there will be room for the decent people you deserve to come into your life.

If you have pushed 40 like me and have children, then you know, relationships come and go, the only ones that really count are your kids (parents and siblings not withstanding).

Think before you act. Remember what goes around, comes around. Karma can be such a bitch.

Humanity is a friend of mine.